How to Have a Normal Sex Life with Herpes

Having genital herpes is a life-long condition. It is not something that will ever be cured, or run its course. But you can enjoy a normal sex life with herpes. Your primary goal should be to establish a symptom-free state. Your second goal to understand how to recognize the smallest signs of an imminent herpes outbreak; your third goal, I will tell you more about at the end of this article.

Before you do anything, you should first discover if you really have herpes and if so what type of herpes you have. For this you will need to undergo a herpes test carried out by a qualified physician. Common herpes types can affect either the oral or genital area. The type of herpes you have and where it is located will determine whether you are more or less likely to transmit herpes. The greatest risk of transmission comes with genital herpes type II, closely followed by oral herpes simplex virus I (HSV-1). If you have herpes type I, you are far less likely to transmit genital herpes than if you have HSV-2 genital herpes, though you can transmit oral herpes during oral sex. There is a lot of information on herpes transmission, and some of it can be quite confusing. However, if you understand what level of transmission risks apply to your situation, you can filter out erroneous or inappropriate information.

Once you know which type of herpes you have, you can focus on returning to a normal sex life with herpes. To do so it is essential to remain symptom free. Normal sexual activity can only be resumed once you are free of symptoms. It is not enough to protect your genital area or your blisters, sores and rashes in the hope you will not infect your partner. You should refrain from sex during an outbreak and avoid all contact with the infected area. Many people with herpes can identify the early indications of an impending outbreak. There are hallmark signs that are specific to the individual. These include things like fever, fatigue, muscle weakness and aching. Unfortunately, you may have to experience several outbreaks before you can pinpoint these tell-tale signs. I have found a method that can make things much faster for you.

Herpes outbreaks often recur most frequently during the first year after infection. Pay attention to your body signs regularly. This will help you understand any signal that a herpes recurrence may be imminent. At the first sign of any symptoms, you should stop having sex. Even though this may result in some false starts and stops, you must persevere until you have reached the zero herpes symptoms point. You may possibly continue experiencing some form of itchiness. Itching can occur for many reasons, but it will not usually last long, and should not disturb your sex life with herpes too much.

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Unfortunately, getting rid of genital herpes symptoms is not enough. Herpes can still infect your partner even though you may have no visible signs of herpes on your skin. This phenomenon is often referred to as “asymptomatic shedding” and explains how someone with herpes might unknowingly infect someone else. Fortunately, there are ways in which you can significantly reduce asymptomatic shedding; one is by paying attention to even the tiniest signs of an impending herpes outbreak.

Experts have determined that the number of herpes virus shedding days, and consequently the risk of transmitting herpes, is highest in the first year after infection. That is why I think it might be acceptable to take medical suppressive therapy during this time, but only alongside the combination of natural remedies which I recommend. These two combined therapies will help you return to a normal sex life with herpes as fast as possible without putting your partner(s) at too much risk.

Because your sexual behavior influences your sex life, I advocate choosing a supportive partner with whom you can grow. A steady sex partner who is supportive and understanding is extremely helpful for people with herpes. You must disclose the fact that you have herpes regardless of your fear of rejection before any form of sexual contact with your new partner. Let your new partner make up his or her mind as to what course of action to take. If (s)he decides to go along with it, the fact that you disclosed your situation actually reduces the risk of transmitting herpes. If you are both willing to refrain from having sex at the smallest signs of herpes, and you are taking appropriate suppressive therapy, you will be able to resume a normal sex life with herpes after a few weeks. It has been scientifically established that it is people with undiagnosed herpes who run the greatest risk of transmitting herpes.

Often the biggest frustration of your sex life with herpes is the fact that you must use latex condoms. A recent study found that the use of condoms only reduced the risk of herpes transmission by 30%. So you might wonder if, after a few years together, it is still worth bothering to use them. I know I did, and I must confess I did not always. You and your partner may choose to forego the use of condoms, but this will increase your risk of transmitting herpes, and so it is something you must absolutely decide together. This is not a decision I can make for you and I would certainly not advise this approach in any new relationship. All I can say is that I did not transmit herpes to my partner despite the fact we did not use condoms all the time. I do, however, always recommend the use of a water-based lubricant. Decreased friction helps reduce the risk of micro-ulceration of the skin. Some women also report that friction during sex can causes herpes recurrences.

I hope this article has given you an idea of how it is possible to have a normal sex life with herpes.
If you take all the steps above, you will be more than likely to enjoy greater intimacy and have a great love life. Herpes does not have to rule your life. It certainly does not rule mine any more. To enjoy success with preventative techniques may take some learning and persistence, but in the end it’s all worth it.

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How Is Genital Herpes Spread – How You Can Prevent Infecting Your Partner?

Genital herpes can spread from one partner to the other even when no symptoms are visible. However, there are plenty of things you can do to present transmitting herpes to your partner many your doctor won’t tell you about.

Approximately 20 percent of Americans have genital herpes. An important seven to nine out of 10 individuals who have it are unaware that they have it because they don’t have or don’t notice any tell-tale blisters on their genitals. Genital herpes can be transmitted even if the virus carrier isn’t showing any symptoms, although the likelihood of transmission is greatly increased when there are visible sores.

How is genital herpes spread?

Genital herpes is spread through sexual or skin-to-skin contact with a person who has genital herpes or during oral sex with someone who has oral herpes (cold sores). Herpes is most contagious when the sores are open and fluid leaks out, but can nevertheless infect anyone at any stage.

Genital herpes can be spread even by herpes sufferers who don’t show any symptoms. This is because even normal skin (without herpes blisters) still sheds the virus during asymptomatic infections, so the infected person may still transmit the disease to their sex partner(s). A pregnant mother who has no visible herpes symptoms may also pass on the virus to her baby during childbirth.

How to prevent genital herpes from spreading?

Several factors influence your chances of transmitting herpes; one is whether you practice safe sex, take herpes drugs daily, whether you are aware you have herpes and if you have disclosed it to your sexual partner.

Condoms:
Even though condom use does not completely prevent genital herpes from spreading, it reduces the risk of transmission by 30% to 50%.

Suppressive therapy:
Can suppressive therapy reduce the chance of transmitting herpes? Taking the herpes drugs acyclovir or valacyclovir (Valtrex) daily helps relieve the pain and discomfort associated with herpes and also makes the sores heal more quickly; In clinical studies, valacyclovir and acyclovir both reduced herpes transmission by 50%.

Proper Diagnosis:
Two factors influence whether or not a person will spread herpes to someone else. One is whether that person actually knows (s)he has herpes; the other is which type of herpes (s)he has.

A very large number of people infected with herpes, about 80% of them, are not aware they are carrying the virus. This means they will not pay any attention to herpes signs or else will fail to recognize their symptoms as herpes related. This puts their sexual partners at greater risk of getting herpes from them. Herpes spreads from partner to partner often unnoticed or sometimes only noticed after a long interval.

Testing for herpes removes the risk of transmitting herpes to someone unknowingly. If it turns out you have herpes then you will have the opportunity to take preventive measures to protect your partner from infection.

Telling your partner:

A scientific study tried to establish whether or not the fact that someone knew they had herpes and disclosed it to their partner impacted on the probability of them transmitting it to someone else. Their conclusion was that people who had been properly diagnosed and disclosed herpes were less likely to spread the virus.

Disclosing your herpes infection will also influence your sexual behavior and therefore your chances of transmitting herpes to someone else. In other words, knowing and disclosing your herpes status is one of the greatest favors you can do for anyone you may consider sleeping with.

How to stop spreading genital herpes? My personal experience and advice:

Once you know you have acquired herpes, your first goal should be to learn how to prevent herpes symptoms. Suppressive therapy is one option. I have made a personal choice not to use herpes drugs and I haven’t infected anyone with herpes even after having remained for nine years with the same man. That’s why I believe that medical suppressive therapy and condoms are just two of the many options you have.

Remaining asymptomatic can cut your chances of spreading herpes by half. Indeed, shedding time among people who are asymptomatic and those who are not differs by 50%. No shedding means no transmission risk, so becoming asymptomatic is an important factor.

Another way to reduce herpes transmission risk is to learn how to recognize your early herpes signs. The late Dr Stephen Sacks, author of The Truth about Herpes, believed you could cut asymptomatic shedding by half just by paying close attention to symptoms. I totally agree with him and have used that strategy diligently with great success.

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How to kill herpes?

People often ask me how to kill herpes. Killing the herpes virus is actually pretty simple. Place it in contact with a detergent, like soap or just dry air for long enough and there you have it, a dead herpes virus.

But I’m willing to bet that t is not what you wanted to read when you reached this page. Why? Because herpes is a virus. It lives inside your cells and even if you wash and wash yourself with soap for hours that doesn’t mean you have eliminated herpes from your skin if you are having an outbreak of herpes infection.

So how about killing herpes inside the body? Would you saturate your cells with a toxic detergent in the hopes of killing that mean sucker that likes to nag you from time to time with a nasty itch and an ugly sore? I know I wouldn’t, the main idea being to kill the virus without killing myself !. As a writer and something of a herpes sufferer’s fairy godmother, I have always warned others about the dangers of trying to kill herpes at the expense of killing themselves or at least drastically harming their health.

One good example is BHT or butylhydroxytoluene (say what?). This strangely named compound is a commonly used as a cosmetic/food preservative. It was promoted in the 80’s as a herpes cure that could kill herpes internally. As such, it seemed a wonderful idea to take BHT internally in heavy doses in the hope of curing herpes once and for all (bye bye sucker) and several people have done just that. Many reported improvement of their symptoms and some total elimination.

So why am I not charging $300 to sell the secret cure that will cure your herpes for life in a fancy looking bottle with just as fancy a remedy name like Solve Herpes? (If some of you believe this to be a private joke. It is. (wink. wink)… Because I actually know that BHT is likely to severely damage your liver and promote cancer at these so-called “therapeutic levels”. In this context, “therapeutic levels” is just a total oxymoron.

So how do you kill herpes? In test tubes! If you want to eradicate herpes in your body without killing yourself maybe you will be interested to learn a formula that is simple and safe and may not eliminate herpes entirely from your body, but from your life. Now you can eliminate herpes symptoms and their consequences naturally; i.e. prevent herpes transmission without killing yourself in the attempt by testing this suppressed, secret, underground, restricted by the FDA and all strangely named governmental agencies, cure that will not only make you sick in your stomach but could cause you to lose a kidney or cause thyroid malfunction.

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Lysine as a Herpes Treatment: Is it worth it?

When seeking out information about treating herpes lysine is surely to come up as an option. Let us take a look at this controversial treatment and weigh the pros and cons. We will define what lysine is and how it can be helpful to treat herpes. We will also review some of the cons to this treatment option.

What is it?

Lysine is an amino acid. It is not naturally produced by the body, but it is essential to the body. It can assist the body in numerous ways. Studies have indicated that Lysine will help the intestinal tract absorb calcium from the blood stream, it also decreases the excretion of the calcium making it available for the bones to absorb. It is also reported to help the body build muscle, decrease the blood glucose levels, and even reduce anxiety. Lysine has also been associated with decreasing pain, and detoxifying the body after using heroin. However, the most popular use of Lysine has been the treatment of various forms of herpes. Lysine can be purchased almost anywhere that vitamin and dietary supplements are sold. It is provided in pill format.

 Pros:

Lysine is easy to obtain, comparatively inexpensive, and well tolerated by the majority of people. To treat herpes lysine is usually recommended on a daily basis. Most references suggest one to three grams daily. Higher dosing can be used to address breakouts. The maximum recommended dose is four grams. A person should not take high doses for greater than two weeks. The general consensus is that if you are going to take it daily for greater than six months you should not exceed one gram (1000 milligrams) per day. Unfortunately, a study has found at that dosage lysine had no impact on genital herpes recurrences. The longest recommended dosing is twelve months. The user should stop taking the supplement for a period of time before restarting therapy. The average diet supplies sufficient lysine to keep the body running smoothly. Lysine can be found in eggs, cheese, milk, potatoes, meat, and fish. The majority of people do not require lysine supplementation for the body’s normal functions.

Cons:

As with anything there are cons to balance the pros. Although well tolerated by most people, there are enough reports of stomach pain and diarrhea to make these symptoms the most common side effects. Treating herpes outbreaks during pregnancy is still controversial. There are just as many people who support it as there are that caution against it. There has not been enough medical research done to support or denounce the herpes lysine issue for pregnant women. Another concern is kidney disease. Lysine is excreted through the kidney systems, so anyone with decreased kidney function should not take Lysine supplements. Calcium supplements should not be taking when using lysine. Taking these two together can lead to toxic levels of calcium in the body. Also the long-term use of lysine may deplete the body of arginine another amino-acid which is known to support herpes replication but also supports heart and muscles functions. Arginine deficiency  can lead among other things to skin rashes, slowed down wound healing, liver malfunction and constipation, not anyone with herpes would desire.

 

So what is the best way to use lysine for herpes?

Timing is the key to using lysine. Think about why you are using the drug and what you hope to achieve.

If you have a herpes breakout and just want to decrease the pain and speed the recovery, use lysine in a high dose for one  week.

If you have been experiencing several breakouts and want to break the cycle, using the supplement in low doses for six to twelve months may not bring you the results you desire. That is why I do not recommend it. Long-term high lysine intake may cause from unpleasant to harmful side-effects and I think you should really avoid it. If you must take it because you believe what you need (I don’t), please pay attention to your body’s reactions to the supplement and stop it if you notice any changes.

For those suffering from herpes lysine can be a viable short-term solution and is most useful if used at the very early stages of an outbreak. In my program, Herpes Antidote, I teach you when you are most likely to have an outbreak so that you can use lysine at its most potent and useful levels. Go back to the home page to read more.

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Herpes and Pregnancy: can I have kids with herpes?

Can Herpes and pregnancy coexist? Many people are reluctant to talk about the disease, even to health care professionals. Suffers express they sometimes feel embarrassed about their disease. The perceived stigma associated with having a sexually transmitted disease can result is people failing to get essential information. Herpes is real, and it happens to real people every day. You are going to have to get over any barriers that would prevent you from getting out there and getting the information you need. Just remember that most of the healthcare people you will come in contact with are accustomed to dealing with this situation. They do not see anything odd or unusual about the situation or the disease.

Pregnancy is one of those times when you cannot afford to let a perceived stigma or embarrassment stand in the way. Let’s start with a couple of facts. The disease does not affect a woman’s ability to carry a child through to full term. Herpes is not passed from Mom to baby through genetics. Having Herpes does not prevent a woman from getting pregnant, or a man from fathering a child. These are some of the most frequently asked questions about having Herpes and how it affects pregnancy.

Now that we have those crucial questions out of the way we can look a little more in depth into how pregnancy and Herpes can coexist. A healthy young woman can easily and safely become pregnant and carry a baby to full term. The mother has antibodies in her bloodstream that will help decrease the chances of the baby will get herpes. She develops these antibodies from exposure to the various Herpes viruses. These antibodies do cross the placenta barrier to offer the same protection to the baby as the Mom enjoys. Premature babies have an elevated risk due to their underdeveloped immune system and the lack of antibodies from the Mom. Antibodies for herpes do not cross over the placental barrier until around twenty eight weeks. Moms who were infected after becoming pregnant may not have sufficient antibodies to protect their baby. They are also at greater risk for shedding the virus in the absence of a breakout. These factors could lead to infection of the baby at birth.

As a woman experiences the hormone changes that are associated with the pregnancy, she will usually experience an outbreak or two. The outbreaks need to be dealt with due to the pain and discomfort associated with the lesions. The only time that an outbreak may give the Mom concern would be if it occurred at the time of birth. Open lesions at the time of delivery can be a cause of concern. If this situation occurs, your physician will offer you direction as to how to minimize the chance of infecting the baby. Keep in mind that the vast majority of women do not experience an outbreak at the time of birth, even though they may have experienced one or more Herpes outbreaks during the pregnancy. Only ten to fourteen percent of women have an active breakout during delivery. Less than one tenth of one percent of babies contract neonatal herpes.

There has been a lot of research done around the use of Lysine to minimize the chance of Herpes outbreaks. Lysine is an amino acid that is reported to help lessen the number and severity of cold sores and Herpes outbreaks. It can be taken in pill format or applied directly to skin in a cream or ointment. Oral forms can be taken for longer periods of time than topical forms. The use of Lysine during pregnancy is still controversial. Most professionals and researchers suggest it be avoided or used with caution during pregnancy. It should unquestionably be avoided during the third trimester.

Acyclovir is one of the drugs of choice when treating herpes during pregnancy. It is only used for women experiencing frequent outbreaks. There are still risks associated with taking the drug during pregnancy.

As you can see, having genital Herpes does not prevent a woman from having children. There are some basic things that you need to know and follow. The most powerful weapon is knowledge. Arm yourself with information that helps you decide the best course of action for yourself and your baby. Establish an open dialog with the health care professionals that you choose to help you through the pregnancy. Do your own research, and then ask lots of questions. Herpes and pregnancy can coexist.

 

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Dating with herpes: avoid the worst!

A good friend of mine was in a relationship with a man who had herpes.  He seemed very reticent about bringing up the subject of sex.  The two are aged in their sixties, so she told me she thought maybe his reluctance to talk about sex was because his libido had diminished.

She stood his silence for just so long, but began to feel rejected and confronted him about his reluctance to take this next step in their relationship.  He explained he was infected with herpes.

Like so many people confronted with this kind of news for the first time, her brain went into overdrive, wondering whether if they now had sex she was exposing herself to some potentially fatal disease.  I did my best to calm her down by giving her the benefit of my own experience and explaining how to minimize the risks involved.

Truth is most people don’t even recognize herpes symptoms in themselves, far less have the foresight to let potential sexual partners know about it.  If you notice any kind of sore or irritation you really should get it checked out as soon as possible.  The sooner you can get a diagnosis, the sooner you can start treatment.

It turns out my friend had experienced a genital sore herself some years previously.  She hadn’t been checked out but it may be that she was already infected with the herpes virus.

My friend and her partner stayed together.  They make a handsome couple.  I’m not taking any credit for the success of their relationship, but I would like to think that my advice helped my friend through a difficult time and maybe influenced the way in which she was able to deal with the situation.

My advice to anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation is this.  Be upfront.  Be honest.  Talk things through thoroughly and do some of your own research into herpes. Gain your potential partner’s interest in you first. Do not disclose your situation on a first, second or even a fifth date. Once you are starting to feel safe and emotionally close to that someone, tell him/her. Don’t make out as if your self worth were lessened or your personality  damaged in any way. It is important you learn to feel good about yourself first. I always recommend finding some sort of emotional support after diagnosis, whether that be on line forums, local support groups, a caring friend or a therapist .  You should resume dating only once you have fully regained your dignity and self-esteem. People are often mirrors. If you feel unacceptable in some way because you have herpes, your date is likely to mirror that right back to you by rejecting you. So make sure to choose yourself first.

Always remember that there are millions of people out there with herpes who are in good, strong, stable relationships.  Herpes does not have to rule your life.  You can beat it just so long as you know how.

If you want to cut the risk of transmitting herpes to your partner(s), give my herpes antidote a try. It has been proven that the fewer symptoms you have, the less likely you are to transmit herpes. Herpes Antidote will help you eliminate herpes outbreaks from your life. Furthermore, if you don’t know this information, you could increase your chances of transmitting herpes while thinking you are protecting your partner. Herpes antidote will give you the self-esteem you need to go back to the dating scene and get the relationship you are craving for.

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Herpes and Stress – The vicious circle

Herpes symptoms don’t only affect your body. They can be a major cause of stress. It’s kind of a vicious circle. Herpes causes you stress. Stress causes your herpes symptoms to seem even worse. Maybe your herpes outbreak was even caused by stress in the first place. If this sounds like you, you may want to take a look at using Bach Flower remedies.

Bach Flower treatments can help you to deal with some of the emotional stress associated with herpes. Herpes sufferers often experience feelings of shame or guilt associated with the nature of the disease and those stressful feelings can prolong a herpes outbreak or make it worse. Support groups and therapy can be helpful, but it is true to say that not everyone is amenable to this kind of help. Bach Flower treatment doesn’t involve anyone else, and can greatly improve symptoms of stress.

One example of Bach Flower treatment is pine. It’s very normal to feel guilt over herpes, even though you may be totally innocent. Not unlike being assaulted by someone, you see herpes as something you have somehow allowed into your life – even though the truth is that it forced itself upon you against your will. Bach flower treatment with pine can help you to understand and then overcome that feeling of guilt associated with herpes.

Another emotion that is common in herpes sufferers is fear. If you experience a herpes outbreak for the first time, it is natural to be fearful of what is happening to your body. That can be followed on by the fear of having to let a sexual partner know that you are a herpes sufferer. Here Mimulus is a Bach Flower treatment which can have beneficial effects in reducing your level of stress and helping you cope with your fear.

A third helpful Bach Flower remedy is Crab Apple, which is a wonderful aid in ridding you of the fear that somehow you have become ‘dirty’. Crab Apple remedy speaks to the inner spirit and has a cleansing effect on the mind, guiding your inner spirit to a more peaceful, serene and positive place.

Other Bach Flower remedies include walnut as an aid to helping regain self-esteem and boosting self-confidence which may have taken a blow because of your herpes; gentian to help lift your spirits generally and get you moving on again with your life; impatiens, to help you keep the lid on your temper and curb your understandable annoyance at being the victim of a herpes outbreak.

If you’ve been plagued by frequent herpes outbreaks over a long period, you may even have fallen into a state of depression. Here gorse can be an invaluable Bach Flower aid in getting you back on an even keel once more.

If you’re still in a state of shock after being diagnosed with herpes, Star of Bethlehem can help. Finally oak and olive can be very useful Bach Flower treatments which can actually help in reducing the number of herpes outbreaks you experience. To begin this holistic therapy, you could do worse than start with the Dr. Bach rescue cream, which is available in most health stores.

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How Did I Get Herpes?

How does someone gets herpes and when….

If you or someone you know has recently recently received a herpes diagnosis, the news can be a huge pill to swallow.  The first reaction is generally a common one, which is the initial question of “How did I get herpes and from whom?”

The truth is that herpes is a contagious sexually transmitted disease  and that many are not aware of the ways one can get herpes.  For example, most are unaware that one can develop this simply from contacting skin with another individual’s skin that is infected with it.  The majority of people who suffer from herpes do not even know they have it.  Some suffer from the most obvious symptoms of the disease which are sores or open wounds that usually develop around the genitals.  Others experience pain or soreness in these areas which can be the symptom that alarms them to have it checked by their doctor.  It is generally an ailment that begins just a few weeks after the sexual contact with the infected individual.  Once infected, that person can suffer from it for weeks to come, with some cases lasting months.

Some cases do not experience symptoms in an alarming manner and many people only suffer from their herpes on rare occasions.  Others can be affected by it on a daily basis or one week here or there.

The pending issue for most once they become aware of their condition is trying to track exactly where it came from.  This can be an impossible task if they have been sexually active with several partners or never got a herpes diagnosis prior to infection.  Each partner they were with would have to undergo a blood screening before the elimination process could even begin.  It will be almost impossible to get a clear idea who you got herpes from if you had several sexual partners prior to infection.

The only situation where you can be almost certain that you got herpes from your partner is when you had a negative blood test result before having sex with your partner, never had sex with anyone else after the blood test and test positive either in a PCR test or a blood test later on. When I say almost certain because there is a tiny possibility of a false negative result which occurs from 1% to 6% of the time in the best tests.

There is also the possibility that you got the first blood test too early. If you had sex with another partner 1 to 8 weeks before taking the blood test then there may be a doubt you got herpes from the first partner and not the new person. If you got herpes less than 6 weeks ago, it will not show up in a blood screening.  However a PCR screening or “polymerase chain reaction” test will show a herpes infection before the 6 week period.

A negative history of herpes or having no symptoms does not prove you were not infected before. A positive PCR test only shows that you have an active infection. It does not necessarily prove that you did not have herpes prior to that infection. You could request a blood test at the same time and if the result negative, then it becomes quite certain you just got herpes from your new partner. PCR tests return a lot of false negative and can be performed only when symptoms are present. Sometimes people do not experience symptoms at first so getting to know who gave you herpes is not easy.

In other words,

negative blood test + positive PCR test = Proof you got herpes recently

positive blood test + positive PCR test = Proof you had herpes for more than 6 weeks ago

There are other ways to get herpes but they usually account for less than 10% of all cases combined.  For example, one can get herpes  just from sharing the same towels or  undergarments or seating on wet toilet seats,  a glass, lipstick… Nonetheless genital herpes is often transmitted from sexual contact and oral herpes from a kiss.

If you got herpes in under six weeks, it will not show up in a blood screening.  If you consult with your physician they may recommend a PCR screening or “polymerase chain reaction” test as soon as you get blisters.
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